In a world of convenience it’s easier than ever to buy things that look awesome and are super cheap. But do you ever ask yourself if you really need these things? We’re constantly bombarded with ideas about products that will make your life easier, more exciting, and in general just better. And who doesn’t want better? It’s certainly sounds more ideal than whatever you have now, but at what price?
Do you ever stop to think about why advertising and social media are constantly telling you to buy more stuff? Sure it’s nice to have nice things. But what’s the point if you’re not happy with yourself The truth is having more material possessions does not equal more happiness.
We all have something special in our life that brings us insurmountable joy. Something that makes us wake up in the morning and think, mother of pearl I need more of x. No, I’m not talking about drugs, you guys. I’m talking about the things that make us say out and loud, ‘I’m a fan of x” Whatever that is for you, you know what I’m talking about. There are just some things in this world that turn you into a giggling mess of hysterical glee. Or that bring out the seedier parts of your innermost weirdo. It’s all lovely and amazing and I condone all forms of fangirling (regardless of gender).
However, as much as I love it when people love the living daylights out of the things they love, too much of good thing is bad for you. So when do you know it’s too much? Well, personally, I’ve found that it’s when you let the fandom become more important than the actual thing you love. Fandom should never control your life. It can erase the better parts of you and nobody wants that (or should want it) Here’s why:
It’s hard to imagine, but there might come a day when you will experience a friendship breakup. There are few experience as heartbreaking as when you realize that the person you once considered a true friend, someone you could confide in completely, can no longer be part of your life. So many of the relationships we form in our lives seem to have a short shelf life and it’s expected that you won’t always keep in touch with them. Teachers, co-workers, classmates, the cute Russian guy you’ve been ogling since the day he sat next to you at the school assembly*sigh*…etc.
When these people walk into your life you’re almost already sure that they’ll be walking out soon enough, so when they do it’s not a big deal. But when it’s your ride or die homie who has become a major source of love and support for years it is jarring to say the least.